Would you rather live in condemnation or grace?
Can you choose? And does your internal view effect how you lead others?
Maybe you can relate…I’m always filling out an internal scorecard
I want to succeed in a lot of areas. With my wife Jessica, my family, health, work, finances, faith, and more.
This can be a good thing…and a bad thing.
It means I’m always grading myself. Always filling out a personal scorecard, so to speak. Questions like:
Was I kind enough to that person?
Did I do a good enough job?
Am I making progress towards my goals?
In answering these reflective questions, I land in one of two places: condemnation (not good enough) or grace (I’m okay and moving forward).
Condemnation = I’m not good enough.
Grace = I’m ok and moving forward.
It’s easy to take a similar framework of condemnation or grace when leading others.
When looking at others I’m leading, I’ll internally ask questions like:
Is that person doing a good job?
Are they making progress?
Then I’m back to the same broad choices for an answer, and I land in one of two places: condemnation (not good enough) or grace (they’re ok and moving forward).
Here’s the takeaway
I know I have a lot of flaws, and I need a lot of grace. Just ask my wife Jessica :)
And I know the same is true of others. Humans are imperfect.
When I start living in a state of personal condemnation (I’m not good enough, etc), I find:
It’s a heavy, soul-draining feeling.
I automatically start seeing others through this same view.
And when I live in a state of grace towards myself, I find:
I become energized, hopeful, and happy.
I automatically start seeing others through this same view.
The world is better when we are tipping the scales in favor of grace.
Grace always wins!
3 Questions to Ask
When looking at myself, do I usually land on condemnation or grace?
When looking at others, do I usually land on condemnation or grace?
Do others know (or feel) when I am looking at them with condemnation or grace?
Be a Force for Good.
Lance Miller
CEO | Co-founder of Coffee with Champions
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