Maybe you can relate…I’m always filling out an internal scorecard
I want to succeed in a lot of areas. With my wife Jessica, my family, health, work, finances, faith, and more.
This can be a good thing…and a bad thing.
It means I’m always grading myself. Always filling out a personal scorecard, so to speak. Questions like:
Was I kind enough to that person?
Did I do a good enough job?
Am I making progress towards my goals?
In answering these reflective questions, I land in one of two places: condemnation (not good enough) or grace (I’m okay and moving forward).
Condemnation = I’m not good enough.
Grace = I’m ok and moving forward.
It’s easy to take a similar framework of condemnation or grace when leading others.
When looking at others I’m leading, I’ll internally ask questions like:
Is that person doing a good job?
Are they making progress?
Then I’m back to the same broad choices for an answer, and I land in one of two places: condemnation (not good enough) or grace (they’re ok and moving forward).
Here’s the takeaway
I know I have a lot of flaws, and I need a lot of grace. Just ask my wife Jessica :)
And I know the same is true of others. Humans are imperfect.
When I start living in a state of personal condemnation (I’m not good enough, etc), I find:
It’s a heavy, soul-draining feeling.
I automatically start seeing others through this same view.
And when I live in a state of grace towards myself, I find:
I become energized, hopeful, and happy.
I automatically start seeing others through this same view.
The world is better when we are tipping the scales in favor of grace.
Grace always wins!
3 Questions to Ask
When looking at myself, do I usually land on condemnation or grace?
When looking at others, do I usually land on condemnation or grace?
Do others know (or feel) when I am looking at them with condemnation or grace?
Be a Force for Good.
Lance Miller
CEO | Co-founder of Coffee with Champions
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